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Posted on May 29, 2013

Life on The Road Dreams For Five Different Souls- Finding Balance, Can We?

Life on The Road Dreams For Five Different Souls- Finding Balance, Can We?

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We’ve got a lot of dreams. You know that. That’s what made us drool over the world travel idea with our young kids, and that’s what made us move to Israel, move to be nomadic for this long, and make all sorts of littlAe dreams come true, including but not limited to, me losing 28 pounds, authoring a few books, and writing what my heart truly feels without being scared what others will think of it.

So, on our to do list now is Annapurna Circuit with a film crew this September. In the previous post,  you see we just bought the tickets yesterday! Dear God, help us, we’re really facing our fears and are going to do this with our kids. We can check out the film crew’s fundraising efforts here. We truly hope they can raise the funds to come film us.

And as I tell you all of these dreams, I’m not sure what to say about the kids- do they love it, want it, are they even into it anymore, or do they just want to feel ‘normal’ again and not live out of a backpack? We talk about this all the time but I’m not sure sometimes what is really the best and right thing to do. You know all’s perfect when we get to that home, in Israel or wherever it may be, and certainly it’s perfect in Utopia, right?

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All-Awesome Bull Riders of Dalat, Vietnam

We are also dying to ride across Europe on bikes for an entire year. We think we’d like the kids to grow up a tiny bit more and so that just maybe there will be a tad less whining. But, we may be totally off here and may hate ourselves forever for dragging pre-teens on a biking trip. I can see it now, “Mother, you made us do this without even consulting with us. I hate you!” Can’t you see it. I can. I can!

So, we’re thinking we’ll do that after our year in Israel. We think we need to listen to our kids’ request to have a [somewhat] normal childhood with cousins, friends, sleep-overs, and classes. We’ll give them that time to reconnect, remember their roots, and then we hope to fly again.

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We think we’ll do a year in Africa first, which is crazy for our entire lives Kobi never wanted to go to Africa and now, he suddenly does. So, we’ll go there first before he changes his mind again, and then to the year on bikes. Most probably, the kids will make us take them home again for a year after that.

And then, and then, we still want our cruises dream. I’ve told you about it, right? I want to spend 6 months of a rtw cruise ship teaching spirituality classes and meditation as part of the entertainment staff. The kids say they are dying to do it, but who knows if 6 months will not sound so hot after a week? I don’t think you can get off the ship once you sign a contract. At any rate, we’re dreaming of an Alaskan cruise, or one off of Chile, no, no, we want cold, anywhere where we can experience whales and icebergs and that which we still have not. Alaska would be amazing!

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It’s a huge world, and somehow, somehow Kobi and I are slowly figuring out how to raise our kids in it, travel in it, support ourselves, and, and this is the huge one, figure out how to balance the needs of five very different souls to help them all reach their highest potential. Any thoughts? You know I’m dying to talk to you about it. How far do we go to give our kids everything on account of personally sacrificing what we want, how much do we ask our kids what they want? How much do parents decide for their children without ever asking them anyhow? Do you ever really know that you’ve made the best choices? I don’t think so. I think you do what you think is best and release all the guilt and other emotional guck that may convolute how you see your life. I know we are blessed, I know our family is so bonded, I know we have experienced so much magic and love that we will never regret any of this, and I know, I know, I know that in every decision to do one thing, you are deciding not to do another, and so is life.

Shoot. I want to hear it. And now, I’m off to my steamboat dinner at Casa Del Rio, Melaka. Every other meal here was divine- the pizza, that OMG melt-in-your-mouth lamb, the tiffin Paranakan meal. I’m sure the steamboat will be heavenly too. I’ll let you know!

Good night,

Gabi

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Thank you dearly,

Gabi, Kobi, Solai, Dahnya, and Orazi

 

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  1. Gabi, I can’t imagine how hard it can be to think about five different people and keep them all happy, luckily with Amy and I we just have to think about two, and we’re very similar in what we want and also pretty adaptable. I know that if I’d done half the things your family have done when I was a kid then I would have loved it all. I always thought it would be good to live in other countries (I did grow up in Wales though so you can see why!).

    • andrew, what a thoughtful comment. thank you. yes, kobi and i are 100% on the same wavelength and would travel forever if we could, but the kids they speak a different tongue and so we’re figuring out how to dance in a way for five souls. thank you, and still, they love our life, like any life sometimes we all dream of ‘the other’ and one day, i know they will be so grateful for that which they just don’t know how amazing it is yet. we’ve given them the world and their parents- not many kids get that for 3 years right?

  2. Gabi,
    There is always a fine line between letting everyone decide and having them all take part in the options presented. I tend to come up with the plans and then let the family choose from that. I know it is cheating a bit, but sometimes the kids don’t know what is best long term. Anya didn’t want to move to Spain and then after we visited for 1 week last year, to scope out a town to call home, she fell in love with it. She is now so on board; they want to stay another year. We all do a little give and take and compromising and it all comes out all right. We will never know what the other choices would have brought us, so we love what we have at the time.

    • thank you heidi. kobi and i do that too i think. we are parents and our role is to decide based on their physical or emotional feedback what is best. we now know constant motion is not good for us. it wears us down. i was just telling kobi about this family who settled down in spain. i like the relocation settling down, like yours. i like that a lot.

      • Too funny. Yes, constant travel is tiring and sometimes can take away that feeling of “newness” when you haven’t traveled and then you do. You should think Spain. We are making it just fine off of about $3000 a month and that includes about $700/month for travel and exploration. We have a car and fuel is expensive, but with 4 people it is cheaper than public transit.

        We are thinking SE Asia after Spain. Having a home base there and travel often, as we are doing in Spain. It is working well for us and a bit slower. We are doing our first “on the move” travel in a few weeks, planning it all now. We have the full summer to play with and we will explore as long as all of the troops are up for it. The plan for now is Italy, Austria?, Switzerland, France and then back to Spain.

        • love this way of living- slow and meaningful in new sceneries. thank you.

  3. That’s exactly what worries me Gabi, will the kids enjoy it. I’m not worried about missing family and friends, we’ve been away from home for 6 years, but things, the cat, riding their bikes. We’ll just have to see. I’m going to hit them hard with theme parks and rollercoasters to start with, that should win them round!

    • bribery works wonders. we’re thinking we’ll put them in regular school, they’ll hate it and then we can hit the road again. 🙂 we’re also realizing that moving doesn’t work well for us. we love being in one place for a long time, form community, friends, and routine. backpacking motion doesn’t do us well- do many adjustments. love you. gabi

  4. It always seems like the grass is greener on the other side, huh? But, your kids are getting to have amazing experiences I only wish I could have had as a kid. There’s always things we have to trade, of course, to have what we want. You guys are on a good path and have inspired me!

    • Thank you dearest Val. Ying Yang in everything, always something you can’t have when you decide to have something else, right? During your 3 month adventure you also said ‘no’ to other experiences. And so it goes. They are getting what we can give them now on the road, until we return to Israel for a year (or so) and then they’ll get what that life gives them too. Thank you Val.

  5. There isn’t a day,much less an hour, that passes by without me wondering if we are doing the right thing for our kids. I know it’s the right thing for us, we love it, but they are obviously going through a lot of challenges. Patience is the thing I have to work on most, I’m starting to realize. We just can’t know everything up front, and I find that maddening!

    • i totally agree ellen. we don’t know, know either but sometimes we do, cuz otherwise we’d be doing something else and maybe doubting if that was best too. so, either way you don’t know right? hugs, gabi

  6. I love your dreams, Gabi! What I love even more is how much your life is focused on achieving those dreams you are. So many just sit back and wish… but, your family takes the action. What wonderful lessons for your children! Aren’t you dying to find out what they will do as adults with all of these experiences you are gifting them with?!

    I have to say my bit about the cruising… In researching information about my work on the Costa Concordia disaster, I uncovered so many horrible truths about the cruise industry. These companies treat their staff in an atrocious manner and care nothing about anyone. They exist solely for profit, at the expense of thousands of workers that they treat with no respect. They pick people up from devastatingly poor islands, work them for an inhuman amount of hours, and pay them next to nothing. Not to mention, they make billions of dollars a year and pay only 1% in taxes. Just my 2 cents.

    • i have heard. i have and it has deeply dampened my enthusiasm. i heard the entertainment staff gets treated like royalty but still i’m not so sure i want to be a part of that kind of industry. oh, how money does funny things. yes, we get super focused on our dreams and then lose it, find it, change it, lose it, find it…. so is life. i think they are getting so much too. hugs to you laurel. and still, i challenge you to find the one post that was directly inspired by you. hint, it mentions a post of yours in the title. good luck! 🙂

  7. Gabi,
    what you have planned sounds amazing. I hope you bring it to fruition and find your way. My daughter said to me that by removing her and her brother from school to travel the world – enabled her to connect with herself.
    Functioning as a unit means you are constantly looking at the variables – that’s what I found anyway. Making decisions taking so many factors into account, amongst so many wonderful discoveries. Travelling as a family was the most special time for me. I look forward to reading more.
    Janice

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