Why The Boston Marathon Tragedy Was A Wonderful Thing- Four Raw Truths You Won’t Like
Yes, this is a travel blog about a spiritual person and her family, but it’s also a forum in which a spiritual person who happens to be traveling shares her raw truths, even when they make her madly unpopular. So, if you can’t handle that, you may leave now. I will not be offended, and will continue to say what I’m about to. Deal, or don’t. It makes no difference to me. I’m staying.
The tiny/huge part we’ll agree on:
I think, clearly, that the Boston Marathon Tragedy is painful, and hard to accept. Why would someone do that? It’s not even making some statement anti-Muslim, Jews, Blacks, or at the foot of some Pro-Life clinic. It’s totally random. In fact, it’s more than just random. It’s an attack on people, investing in their health, making their dreams come true, pushing themselves to physical and mental challenges far beyond mediocracy. It’s a group of people out there making the most of their lives and running way passed their comfort level. So, that’s the part we would all agree on.
Here’s what we won’t agree on.
1- It’s A Minor Tragedy
I’m in Malaysia in the BackHome Hostel struggling to exchange a few coherent words with the Japanese Badminton champion training here. I spent my morning doing the six’s of the multiplication table with my only male offspring, who is surprisingly enthusiastic about it. I got wind of this on Facebook and told Kobi that something awful had happened at the Boston Marathon. I envisioned that starting line with thousands of people sardined into a bomber’s wet dream of population density. Kobi googled and informed, at that time, of 3 deaths and 140 injuries. My reaction, “Thank God!”
I’m from Israel people. I’m used to hearing of kindergarten classes blown up, buses packed with people burning to death, and, OK, I’m exaggerating and I haven’t watched the news for years, but come on friends. There are thousands of people dying all over the world every day from starvation, earthquakes, and unsanitary health conditions. Three people die in Boston and the world is coming to an end. I’m not saying it’s not scary, but let us take a step back and realize “Thank God!” that a very small number of innocent people were actually harmed.
2- Tragedy Invites Human Kindness
- Do you how many people ran to the bomb scene?
- Do you know how many people opened up their homes and businesses?
- Do you how many random people walked the streets of Boston that day asking other random people if they needed a place to stay?
- Did you know that Google created a public stay-at-our-house spreadsheet and a person finder?
- Do you know how much unreal human kindness and cohesion comes out of this and any other global ‘tragedy’
So, as a people who are often scared to allow strangers near us, let alone into our homes, the Boston Marathon Tragedy suddenly tore down those doors of ego and fear, and flung them wide-open with love. Tragedy here, and around the world, invites people to show their fullest light to those who can never repay with, with no hidden agenda other than to help another soul in need. In the Lebanese War, total strangers in a doctor’s clinic gave me the keys to their new house so that my family and I could stay in comfort during the bombings up North. We walked into a full-stocked house with bundles of cash thrown about here and there, as if they were returning from the next room any minute. I repeat. I was a total stranger. We lived in that house, while they were overseas, until the war was done. That brings my goosebumps goosebumps. That invitation to be our most loving selves is pretty damn cool in my eyes.
3- Death Invites Beautiful Voids
I know you’ll most likely hate me from now on, but if you’ve read this far, hear me out. I am the young mother of three young children and if I were to die tomorrow, conventional Western mentality would construe that as a tragedy. My family would do. I would not.
When I die, and when the people who died in the Boston Marathon or the Holocaust or the Khmer Rouge or some grandmother dies tomorrow, all of us create a void when we are gone. In that void, when I am not here, my children and husband will compensate in creative ways. Maybe my kids will hold onto each other in ways that they never would have before, maybe the even-more (if that’s possible) maternal instincts of Kobi will come out and he’ll give them what he hadn’t before to compensate. Maybe my death will make my family stop traveling, and great new things will happen because of it. Maybe because of my death, Kobi or my kids in the future, will pick a great partner that will bring them joy they could have never imagined.
The deaths of those people will create beautiful voids. I’m not saying let’s do the happy dance about Hiroshima, the Holocaust, the nuclear radiations in Japan and other large and small tragic events on this planet. But what I am saying comes from Buddhism. Buddhism teaches us that nothing is good or bad, it’s all either painful, pleasurable, or neutral. This is painful. The deaths and injuries from the Boston Marathon Tragedy are not bad. They are painful.
4- It’s a Time To Celebrate With Another Sexy Future
“Oh God, Gabi, tell me you are not celebrating. You just said above ‘no happy dance.’ This is just beyond disrespectful and wrong.”
Hold on. Listen.
Joe Dominguez and Vicki Robin brought to the world Your Money Of Your Life, which radically changed for millions of people their relationship with money. It was one of the prerequisites for us allowing ourselves to dream of world travel and heavily influenced our best-selling ebook Saving For A Dream. One of the greatest lessons of this book is that the most precious and limited thing you have is your ‘life energy’. You do not know how long you have to live, so you should look carefully if you are spending your limited life energy doing that which you are passionate about.
Most of us, only when facing a life-threatening disease, rise to the occasion of our lives. Most us live when death rubs too close, and that is total waste of good life energy, friends. I take the Boston Marathon Tragedy as an invitation to a- send light and love and b- to create my next sexy future with Kobi. Our next plans, are this biking through Europe idea.
When we were still back there at Pillows and Toast Hostel in Singapore, we began to talk about and starting to comprehend what a year biking with our kids would taste like, and how much of it will be whining and how much of it will be enjoying. We’re right before the logistical stages of looking into flight tickets obtainable on fly.co.uk, figuring out how to get good but cheap bikes, and practicing scripts that will be more likely to convince our kids that this will be better than returning home to Israel. But, first, we still need to get everything in line for our September Annapurna Circuit Hike and Volunteer Mission, and all that has to be laid out for Country Number 12 in 6 weeks.
Oh, have you seen Country Number 11 yet? It’s so worth it.
So, we’ll take this tragedy as an opportunity to be thankful. Thankful for the cuddling, the time with our kids, the unreal heart-to-heart talks that take place almost every day around here. Thankful for the kindness people showed and the invitation to live in the here and now, and to take active steps towards the next passionate dream we have. We send our love to all who need it right now, in Boston and throughout the globe.
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Kobi, Gabi, Solai, Orazi and Dahnya Klaf
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