The Sure-Fire Way Piss Off Your Friends And Make Your Dreams Come True
So, here I am again at (Pillows and Toast Hostel in Singapore), in a little hand-made drama, and bowing to all the heaps I’m learning from it. The grand conclusion, in case you don’t feel like reading a lot tonight, is that I’m not afraid to say what I want, to actually yell it from the roof tops, and see how the Universe jiggles and dances in response to the ripples I create. Your see, we believe that life is a gamble, and that you must put yourself out there, and take chances, and be uncouth and (highly unpopular word coming…) honest, to let your true self be out there. Turns out that being authentic and not pretending that I’m a nun with only the good of mankind on my mind is not the popular thing to do. Turns out wanting money is an evil thing to do. Yes, life on the road has brought us to Vegas, where I almost died, and we spent the greater part of our summer there so many years ago. We did enter a casino twice, but does that make me unrealistic or an irresponsible gambler who doesn’t work for her life? And yes, I want money in my life, enough to do all I dream of and more, and does saying that make me selfish and greedy? I think not.
So, I’m trying to take this anger inside of me, anger at others judging my truth, and make it a ‘learning experience.’ [Note: unresolved childhood and money issues rising, now.] I know that I have much to learn. I’d like to share with you what I’m learning, how to not only piss people off, but also (as a bonus) how to guarantee that most of your most daring dreams will come true.
AND two other awesome BONUSES: I’ll share with you how Vegas has tons to do with this information, and the best joke I know about gambling.
The Absolute Best Way To Piss People Off:
- I know that sex, religion, politics, parenting, and money pisses people off more than I can still imagine. I know that I once taught a 2 1/2 month parenting course in which we talked about every imaginable painful sibling rivalry, parental shame, and messed up family dynamics issue, and still, on the last day, we talked about money and how we can afford world travel, and all hell broke loose.
- I know that these issues, maybe above all money, clearly, pushes on the unresolved buttons of so many of us.
- I also know I’ve always shared my truth and that that vulnerability is what has made therapy groups and individuals alike feel safe to open up to me as a another soul. I know that total strangers within minutes have shared with me their deepest pains, and I fell blessed to be real enough to create that space. I am honored to take this role, even if at times I get bashed for it. (The relevant part of the video begins around minute 6.)
- I know that this episode came out in Facebook when I announced that I want someone to give us $50,000- $80,000 a year so that we can travel 8 months of the year and be in Israel for 4, so that we don’t have to rent our house out but have it waiting for us, and so that I can hire Skype tutors to teach my kids so that Kobi and I don’t spend 20-30 hours a week educating our kids and have time for other passions. I shared how I want, I want, I want and forgot to include the disclaimer about how all of this is just to inspire the world, and give back, and walk in the steps of Mother Theresa. I just said, honestly, in my raw self, that I have a dream that someone will hand me the money, and some people flipped out about how greedy and selfish I am, and how me getting the money while other people have to work for their money is down-right disgusting, and what kind of work ethics am I teaching my kids by getting a million dollars and not earning it, and, and, and. And I’ll stop but God, the soapbox of perfect people out there who don’t dream of money but only helping humanity is a really large stage.
- I know that I often put my thoughts and feelings, my pain and my wishes out on Facebook and on this blog, and the spiritual journey within blog without stopping to think. Why? Because I believe that that spontaneous energy flowing within me must be shot out, and that as soon as I live in fear of what others will think, I will stop being Gabi.
The Absolute Best Way To Make Your Dreams Come True:
Two examples to show you what I want to say:
1- No, Six Times with BMC Software:
When we were living in the States and dreaming of living in Israel, Kobi applied for a job with BMC Software. And everyone and their dog told us that no one gets a job before they move to Israel and that only after arriving, can we hope to get income for the family, and we disagreed. [Running theme: you tell me it’s impossible and I just go for it more.]
So, BMC Software said, “no, ” and I suggested to Kobi to try again.
Kobi: “Why? They’ve already rejected me?”
Me: “Because the worst they can do to you now is say ‘no’ again. The best they can do is maybe say ‘yes’ this time.”
Six applications later, he got the job he always dreamed of and a year later, he worked in their Houston branch for a few months, and we moved to the Upper Galilee Valley with a hi-tech job already in place.
2- Can’t You Take No For An Answer with Wings Over Houston Airshow
We were ice cream truck vendors, which also begins to explain when someone accuses me of not working, for Kobi and I have worked our asses off, why I flip out. We’ve never gotten money not for marriage, or a home, or for college for anyone, and still, through working 3-4 jobs at a time we’re two ice cream truck drivers with Master’s degrees. I never did the university party scene and the rest that everyone I know did. I had to work.
And Kobi and I afford this nomadic lifestyle by buying an apartment, not a house, and living in a periphery town in Israel where none of my neighbors see the world in any way like me, and not in the central or in a kibbutz, and we wear second-hand clothing and hand-me-downs, and travel and live more frugally than anyone I know. [Note: I’m not complaining or whining, just clarifying that our life, we built, no one handed us anything on a sliver platter.]
And so, while those rolling the dough (and others) are shooting arrows at me for being selfish, I know what hard work is and yes, I will continue to dream, and take action, of money. I’m sure that moral, hard-working people do not fall asleep at nights sometimes wishing they had financial peace of mind to make all their wildest dreams come true. No, just horrendous creatures like me do that. I do dream of money (and lots of other deeper things) , and will continue to do so. I won’t just dream of money, I’ll share that dream with the Universe and invite the powers that be to be aware of my wishes, and therefore, further invite them to come to me. So there. So, don’t ever tell me I am a dreamer waiting for someone to give me money and that I don’t have work ethic, cuz I will implode on you.
Oh my, I sure did go off on that one? Yes. Eh-hem. Composing self, now, and continuing.
So, we were about to get married, working in the ice cream trucks and testing out the world of festivals and events. In the hundreds of events I was calling (pre-email days), I found one for The Wings Over Houston Airshow, the largest airshow in America. To make a long story short, the guy told me ‘no’, and I insisted that maybe there was still another way. I called him back maybe 8 times suggesting this solution or that one, unable to turn down something that could be huge for us. We ended up selling snow cones out of the parking lot, not officially in the event grounds (a genius loophole to a complicated list of reasons we couldn’t get into the event), and paid off our entire wedding through this event.
Bill Silverman told me later, “I only agreed to this because of your persistence, determination, and audacity. Besides my wife, I’ve never met a more stubborn woman.” I wonder how he and Carl are doing these days. Such nice gentlemen.
So, what do we learn here friends?
1- Put it out there. Make your plans and dreams known to the world, even if others criticize you.
2- Don’t take no for an answer.There is always a creative solution for any problem, and like my economics teacher used to say in the best Southern twang, “There’s more than one way to skin a cat.”
3- Take action. Which leads me to what this has to do with Las Vegas and my favorite gambling joke.
How Las Vegas Has Everything To Do With This
Another great story about who we are, how lazy we are, and how damn selfish we are. After two years at Houston Community College, Kobi and I moved on to The University of Houston. Right before the high-tech bubble popped, he got a job (which again everyone said it was impossible to get a job contract signed 9 months before you even graduated). He was actually the last graduate to get hired from the Management Information Systems department before things went south, and was hired, on their word, even when by the time he graduated, they no longer were financially able to support new hires. So, he got the job, things went south fast, and he and 4000 of his best friends Price Waterhouse Coopers were laid off, with a great severance package.
We did what any rational unemployed couple with a 2 1/2 month old would do: We bought a pop-up trailer and went on a long road trip. You can read the entire beautiful story of how I was sure I was going to die in Vegas, and about Kobi working in a booth at the mall and as a diamond salesman and more, but the bottom line is this: we took action, we did things, we took a gamble and hit the road, and angels, opportunities, and fairies came. We walked the glitzy lights of Vegas, feeling lost and confused in all of that money, and the next opportunity found us. And that spirit, even if it brings us criticism, we will continue to have, in dreams and in the chutzpa to make them public. Did we gamble in Vegas? Only the ten cent slot machines. Did we meet others who did? Yeah, we knew those who loved gambling in the various casinos and on other online version. We, we’ll keep gambling by putting ourselves and our dreams totally out there.
The Best Gambling Joke I Know
Guy sits in front of the TV watching the lotto numbers being announced.
“Damn it, I didn’t win!”
He marches up to the roof of his house and yells at God, “Why won’t you let me win the lotto?!”
Same thing happens the week after.
And the week after that.
And the week after that.
Guy sits in front of the screen again, in great anticipation, and again, doesn’t win and storms up the roof, “Why, God, why?”
Now, God’s a patient kind of guy but this is a bit too much for him, and so he booms back:
“GO BUY A DAMN LOTTO TICKET!”
So, you know me and know that I rarely get pissed off. I avoid confrontation and usually let this stuff just pass me by, and yet here, something really deep pissed me off. Kobi and I have worked very hard, have exhibited great creativity and self-restraint to make our dreams come true, and I cannot lightly accept words like ‘greedy’ ‘selfish’ and ‘not working for your money’. Sorry.
So, I’m done ranting and ready to calm down and learn. I’m ready to look back at Vegas, and all those other times we didn’t let life tell us ‘no’ and smile. I’d love to hear what you think friends. Don’t you just love that joke? Have you ever not taken ‘no’ for an answer? Does my wanting money also make you very uncomfortable? Should I really only share what will show my angelic, save-the-world sides and hide my real desires and wishes for financial surplus?
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Thank you for allowing me to share how I feel. – Gabi
ps: who wants to meditate?
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