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Posted on Nov 2, 2012

Concrete Evidence of Us Abusing Our Kids- Siem Reap, Cambodia

Concrete Evidence of Us Abusing Our Kids- Siem Reap, Cambodia

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Israel’s Number One Online Newspaper Ynet.co.il recently published a front-page story about our family travels. With over 60,000 reads, almost 100 of the 400 comments said we were hedonists abusing our kids. Hmm… let’s chew on this while I watch our latest little video of a typical dinner.

Now, I’m not saying I’m mother of the year, nor that Kobi is the world greatest father. We screw up, lose our cool, and yell when we could have used quiet, respectful worlds. But does traveling the world mean that my kids are abused? Hmmm… One comment said that after traveling the globe in their youth, my kids will have had too many positive experiences and will therefore be bored, always seeking more thrills, and therefore [ his logical conclusion] our kids’ only choice is to turn to violence and drugs.

Oh, and for those of you who think we’re abusing our kids…. watch the video, and know that we’re doing it without leaving too many physical scars, having the time of our lives in the process, and are hoping you’ll take this tiny mention as a personal invitation to kiss our butts!

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What would it look like if every night family dinner became family game night? What would it look like it people at neighboring tables who smiled and peeked over into your breathing space were invited over to play, and became your next life-long friends? What would it look like to live free, with no prejudices or social rules, and anyone, from foreigners to beggar-street-kids could join in the fun? What would it look like to be happy, as a family, with no stress in their lives?

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OK, so there is stress, sometimes, but it’s just cuz they still don’t hang their damn wet towels, or they don’t want to learn their ‘times 5’ table, or there is hysterical complaining on a never-ending bus ride, or they are walking into heavy traffic because they’re too busy talking or… ok, I’ll stop. You get it.

So, abused kids at dinner. And yes, I intentionally picked a nothing-special, nothing-out-of-the-ordinary snapshot of our lives cuz isn’t that really where life plays itself out, and not in those posed, faked we-are-so-happy-and-perfect impressions I want you to think about us?

 

AND THE MOTHER OF ALL STOP ABUSING YOUR KIDS POSTS. I WARN YOU… CURSING ON THE HEAVY SIDE OF THIS ONE, LOVES.

Are you abusing your kids too? Tell me truth that you think maybe they need stability and ‘normal’ childhood experiences. Do you think I sometimes feel almost-guilty because maybe I think our nomadic family lifestyle is not the very best choice for our family?

Xoxo from  Cambodia,

Gabi, Kobi, and the three very-abused Dahnya, Orazi, and Solai

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  1. Pah! Take no notice. You’re doing an awesome job and you probably know what I think about putting them in school. Too much excitement, is that guy for real???

    • Alyson, you are a dear. I love following your homeschooling posts and pictures, especially when you show your abused children boasting their art work. I guess if life is too good, it can only go down from there, right? Hugs to Alyson.

  2. If this is what people call Child Abuse then heaven help all the narrow minded, over-opinionated wind bags. Maybe they should look past their big sticky beaks and remove their heads from their collective a**holes.

    Keep doing what you do!!

    • sara, can i marry you? whenever i get pissed, i’ll just let you out on them. i love you. gabi

      • It’s a date, Gabi! Lemme at them ANY TIME!

        I was actually being polite when I was composing that little rant of mine ( truthfully I was)

        I have ZERO time for haters, wannabes etc. Sad lives breed sad people.
        Rather be wandering the world than hiding in a hole of my own making.

        • i am so non-confrontational. i love internal drama or love-wars but ‘haters, wannabes,etc. ‘ of the sort, i have no room for in my life and avoid even talking to them. it was 400, not 300 comments actually. and i think it must be hard to have someone flaunt in your face that there is another way, that there are really awesome alternatives to the normal life sometimes we feel stuck in. i’m into writing songs these days and making up lovely little chords on the guitar. ‘ hiding in a hole of my own making’ can i use that? it’s soooo good.

          • Feel free to use what ever words.. Look forward to hearing the song one day.

            You guys heading in to Penang at all?

  3. Oh that’s so funny!!! What an uptight bunch of commenters they must have been. Glad you told them to bite you! As one mother of the year to another – you’re doing just fine!

    • so a thumbs up from an abusive mom to another abusive mom, should that make me feel better? hmmm…. poor jono, poor poor jono.

  4. I smell people green with envy. Those kids are living life to the fullest, and they’re just kids! I know my bub does.

    • i guess flaunting in their face that there is another way won’t make me many friends. i was really modest about it all, saying that we were normal and fighting and all like normal people, but that we happen to be nomadic… thank you gayE. i’m glad your child is abused too. very glad.

  5. Dear Gabi and Kobi

    Well, from where I’m standing, or sitting rather at the moment, in the heart of Israel,and about to start a job helping kids after school hours recover from bad experienes, and from one who against all norms in Israel, had her kids at home till age six and then enrolled in a realtively free Democratic school, I think what you guys is “Avodat Kodesh”, Holy Work in Hebrew…

    Can you send a link to that article?

    My heart breaks almost every day when I see kids here, babies, herded into day care and normal schools, where they are barely seen, never mind heard. THAT’S abuse!

    But hey, I am a drop here in this ocean…glad to know you are out there..

    Love Yael

    • dearest yael. god, thank you for your heart-felt comment. i know. i also pulled my kids out of all system schools and had them at home with me for two and a half years, then we opened a very open-free-energy-democratic school with another 9 families and opened a 14 student ideological dream in kibbutz amir (still there today!), and now we’re on the road…. i understand people going against the norm and paying the price of those choices. i do hope the prices we pay will be strong kids who know themselves intimately and are mature and secure beyond the regular ebb and flow confusion of ‘modern’ existence. the link is in this post itself. i would love to hear your thoughts. and yes, i also hate the kids herded like cattle from this system to that. even if i yell sometimes, like this second i did, at least i see them. 🙂 yael, i am also but a drop in the ocean, like you. and like you, i’m so glad to know you are out there, loving me, doing your own journey too. so much love to you yael, the one and only person i actually connected to and am so grateful for through linked in (right?) 🙂 gabi

  6. I smell the fear of those who gave negative, and by the sounds of it rude,ignorant feedback! My comment to them is “NO COMMENT!”Love you guys.x

    • you are adorable and i think that that ‘rude, ignorant feedback’ maybe stung so much because it hit something deep inside that wonders if maybe it is true, maybe kids should have the stability of a community, school, extended family, and country of identity. i still think we have all of those and value them and speak of them, and i still think melanie, that this adventure is a wonderful alternative way of life that bonds us and invites/forces us to get to know ourselves more than being rushed in the ‘normal’ bubble, but still, something inside, i guess, will always wonder at any point in life, ‘is this really the best choice?’ i love seeing you here, in fb, on google plus one, and at gabiklaf.com. thank you for being in our lives and for loving us, thinking about us. i’m so honored we’re friends dear.
      gabi

  7. Gabi y / o Kobi:

    Adelante en esa maravillosa aventura de que los chicos exploren toda esa gama de conocimientos, culturas, emociones al paso de los diversos países en el tiempo…………….que legado de experiencias están acumulando para su futuro en esta aldea global.

    Lo demás no vale la pena comentarlo pues son mentes estrechas,…………

    • rodirigo!!!! rodrigo!!!! donde estas? te extranos mucho! gracias por estas palabras amor. si, es verda. nosotros piensementamos mismo de te, que esta adventura, que los experiencias globales y ricos es regalos por mis ninos por todo la vida, y no aye pena a los almas de mis ninos. tu es un verduga que dahnya, oracio, y solai son flores que crecen en la jardin de la mundo y bebien las aguas de amor de las colores, sabores, y culturas de mama tiera. gracias amigo. por supuesto, ojala que te vivimos un dia, otra ves. gaby, y koby, y los tres ninos calliyosas.

  8. I’ve been thinking about this throughout the day and was wondering if the percentages would have been different if the paper had been published elsewhere. I don’t know a lot about Israeli journalism (or Israel at all other than what I was spoon-fed at school),but it just crossed my mind.

    Just been re-reading my previous comment and I may have been a bit harsh-attack is the best form of defence!

    • just wrote to you other comment melanie, much i want to think here. i don’t think they are haters, they just don’t get it. i also used to judge (and sometimes still do) when i see people raising their kids in ways that i just don’t get. israelis are much more in your face and harshly honest. i do think other cultures would have been maybe more open to it, but i also must say of the 400 (not 300 comments) 100 were ‘your kids should be taken away from you. god take mercy on their poor souls’ (that is a direct quote), and 100 were how in the world can we afford this (good, legit question which you know from the ebooks), and 200 were about how amazing we are and good for us and they wish us so much love and light in our journey. so, i’ll take it all, and take the criticism as an invitation for me to a- look at the many still- unresolved issues i have in my heart about my nomadic kids lives and b- see how much my ego wanted praise and trembled from the criticisms. all good things to learn, all good things to learn. your turn. i’m waiting to hear your thoughts. thank you for caring melanie.

  9. Just tell ’em to focus on their own family. Buttinski’s like that have nothing better to do than to tell others how to live their lives.

  10. I for one like reading about this because I went to public school all my years in the USA and my wife went homeschool her whole life. We are leaving in January to do what you’re doing and when we have kids, we don’t plan on stopping and staying still.

    I also happen to know some brothers that grew up living crazy exciting lives and then each one did completely different things. One became a business owner, the other a druggy, and the other works for a college as an activity coordinator. It would seem that it’s not so much the up bringing in terms of school that matters versus teaching your child how to act, people skills, and make smart decisions. And then it really just comes down to the kid having to make their own decision for their life.

    Keep in mind I don’t have kids yet, this is just my observation.

  11. Those folks seriously need to get a life, and maybe a bit of heart as well. I can understand folks being jealous, or maybe thinking it is selfish as many can’t do what we have done though they may want to, etc. but some of those replies were just plain mean, and in my world – as obviously yours – I have little tolerance for it.

    Love reading the blog and about your struggles and adventures!

  12. acutally, in the road most people we meet support our lifestyel. I personally, love getting the supportive attitude. and the negative ones, confuses me. cheers

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