Keep In Touch While I’m Gone… Because I Won’t
So we left home almost year and a half ago. So much time to be away on one hand. And on the other, time flies so rapidly. I, Kobi, promised my parents to call at least once a week. The kids guaranteed their friends to Skype as much as possible. Gabi had sincere intentions to keep the ‘flame’ on with our friends back home. No one expected us to connect using smoke out of a fire pit or write actual letter with paper and ink. With today’s technology, it should be simple. We told (almost) everyone we love goodbye and we promise to keep in touch. But did we?
Keeping in touch with family and people you care about should not be taken for granted and is not as simple as it seems. As for us, at first, we did keep in good touch. It was fun and fulfilling. After we left, we felt confused (like in Bangkok), tired, and needy. The talk with people back home was almost a necessity. It made us feel better and relieved. But after settling down in our journey and feeling too comfortable, we connected less and less. From connecting at least twice a week, we moved to once a week and now, once every three weeks if at all. We had all the best intentions to keep in touch, but we did not. And why is that? I guess I cannot speak for the whole the Klaf tribe, but I did some thinking myself and realized several important reasons.
The first, for me to feel connected to anyone is having this person next to me. There is a phrase I learned once that states “far from the eye, far from the heart” that is exactly how I feel about keeping in touch. As much as I love my family and our friends so much, I do not find the inner power to take the time and just call or write. I wish I had but reality is stronger. From time to time, I get a Facebook message from my mother telling me how difficult the past few nights were for her since she did not hear from me… and it breaks my heart to know that. I feel the bad, irresponsible, immature boy who leaves his family to worry about him.
The second, I get tired of people telling us that we do is crazy and we must come home ASAP. Usually it is the close family who feels this way. I realized that this attitude doesn’t make me run and talk to them. Each conversation makes me little upset and confused. It shakes the notions that a family travel is the best things for us. They push on every button within me by saying to me “You’re 42 year old and no one will hire you when you get back” (like I want to get back…
The third, is a financial reason. I would love to see them online when I am. Being online on the same time makes our communications more accessible, free, and easy. So considering the fact that our friends and family do not bother to open a Skype account or go online, enforces me to call to land line or cell phone to keep in touch. Considering that our budget is low and we have the intentions to travel for much longer, I rather not spends hundreds of dollars on overseas phone calls. Our kids have the desire to converse with some of their friends back home, but those friend, as well, did not bother to open Skype account. We ended up spending money so our kids can talk to their friends and consequently, it is get less and less frequent.
I promise myself (right now) to call one friend or family member once a week and to my parents at least once a week as well. I will do that. There are many ways for me to do so. The most common one will be via Skype. It is free and easy. On the other hand, there are many options to cheap international calling rates. Depends on your locations and your destinations, you can find attractive rates to call back home. And if you’re calling to the US, you can use Google Call to call any number for free (you need to have Gmail account and to mask your proxy to US one).
I wish you better luck keep in touch with ones you love. And this still doesn’t work, you can always keep in touch with us on:
So remember to keep in touch with us while we are gone because we may not….