GrandFathers,Teens, & Sex- Bangkok, Thailand
I will not judge, I will not judge, I will not judge. Damn it, I’m judging. I am. It’s hard for me to see all these men my father’s age with 20 year olds. Literally, grandfathers are making out with girls maybe 19 -25 years of age. And younger men-versions too, in their 20’s, 30’s, and up with prostitutes. Some of the girls looking so cheap, so sexual. So everything I imaged a prostitute would look like. Some so young, some so old. Those are the ones who, even when I walk in the street holding Kobi’s hand, they look at him with lustful eyes and coo at him. Or that night we walked and a slimy pimp guy behind this really lost looking girl with push-upped bar little tanktop and fitting skirt covering her panty line and no more. He was laughing at her, pushing her into the street, while holding her cell phone and yelling at her. (Maybe she had made a phone call instead of hustling? I don’t know.) She looked very, very young.
She had really long long jet black straight hair. She, and several others, look so pretty, so sweet, so (can I say this word?) innocent? And some of them, look downright gorgeous. It’s confusing. Some of them look like movie star in how they carry themselves, their hair, dress, makeup, high heels. Those, I can easily see why any man would like to go out with them. Many of those were in the pub with us. Many of those (I’m told) don’t take money for their services, but enjoy the good times, free food, admissions, and sex with a foreigner; and the hope, the dream that maybe this one will fall in love with her to ever after in Thailand, the land beyond the rainbow.
And yes, really, why not? If I was older and alone and felt a bit lonely (which I do anyhow sometimes, and I’m not alone!) why wouldn’t I find someone hot 20-50 years my junior and have the time of my life. How would that feel to be able to be with someone, sexually, who is wrinkle-free, young, glowing? I see them in the hotel pool, one, two or three smiling, laughing little girls all over one guy. And the guy, feeling like Tom Cruise, smiling cockily from ear to ear.
And yes, really, why not? Why not try really hard for a dream that may take you out of a reality you feel trapped in? Why not try really hard to use what God gave you (even if it is your body) to make money, have some fun, and maybe make the ultimate dream come true?
So, why is this not right? Why not walk with a hot girl (or a not-so-hot one who will make you feel like a King for the night)? Why walk the streets of Bangkok alone when you can have someone near you who laughs, pets you, and makes you feel super wanted and young, right? And on her part, why not try?
Isn’t that what I believe in? Isn’t that why we travel the world now and not one day when we retire and may have enough money/security/insanity to know it is the right time to do so? You only live once and you have the right, no, the obligation, to squeeze the juice out of this life and enjoy every last drop. So this entire prostitution thing is just having fun, no? And I believe that every person defines for themselves the rules that make his life most joyful. So, who am I to judge what makes you most joyful? Prostitution may be a powerful ingredient for a highly enjoyable life. I don’t know.
So, as you’ll hear in the video, I’m struggling. I think we all have choices. Those girls do too (at least some of them do). There are tons of Thai girls working in that grocery store or as street vendors who probably make in a week, what these prostitutes make in an hour. All making choices, right?
So, I’ll keep fumbling and struggling to love the world and all the people that I met along the way. I’ll keep looking at the contradictions and know that there is only learning there for me. I’ll keep looking at these grandfathers having sex with teenagers and know that everyone is making the best decisions they can, and that that is all they can do. Until now, I’ve looked away, avoided eye contact cuz I didn’t want to convey what I was feeling. And now, I will keep to look every grandfather and every prostitute by his side that I meet on the street in the eye with love and compassion.
What do you think about Grandfathers and Teenagers Having Sex? Any thoughts to help me reach greater understanding, acceptance, compassion, and love? Ever been in a situation where you knew you should not judge but felt it rising in you so strongly?
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