My Biggest Travel Mistake
We all make mistakes, and I’m pretty much at peace with mine. OK, so when I enthusiastically whipped out my camera to take a picture of those armed soldiers who didn’t smile back at me, and Kobi (with rich military experience) told me sharply, “They have silencers on their M16’s. Put the F— camera away now!” Ok, so that was a little mistake. And when we pushed our kids through 40 hours of hell travel to save $1000- we could revisit that. And that time we went to sleep at a total stranger’s house when we arrived at 12:30 am to a scary town, and we kept whispering to each other in Hebrew, “If he doesn’t murder us, it should be quite nice!”
So, we haven’t used the best judgement at all times. We’ve made some stupid choices. Some very stupid mistakes. But, we’ve always said that if the head count comes out at lucky number 5, we’re doing fine.
But there is this one mistake, that nudges at me. It nudges because it’s continuing to his very day. This one mistake is not going away, and it sort of sucks you up into itself, and perpetuates. It’s not one of those did it, oops, never again, learn, reflect, move-on mistakes; it’s one of those slow, addictive ones that kill you softly.
We left our homes to become a bonded, simple, connect-to-nature, healthy family. That is why we became a nomadic family. And, on our journey, we’ve gotten bored, read books, meandered and explored, sat on hammocks or blankets under starry nights; we’ve walked on beaches during sunsets, and have done puzzles for hours all the while chit chatting away. We’ve done so much of the real stuff we wanted to do.
And then, the mistake began. It started out nice and slow, and slithered it’s way into my soul. “Hey, what if we make a blog to remember our experiences. A nice little online keepsake journal for us!” Then,, “Hey, what if our blog brings traffic and then someone may want to donate money for our volunteer efforts!” Which turned into, “Hey, let’s write some e-books and sell some products that are really good and then, people will spend money on this good stuff, and then, we can keep traveling”…. and eventually it became:
“Let’s not sit and relax and do any of those family or couplehood things we love to do. In fact, let’s stop being and let’s just be productive and effective all day and night and in our actions and in my dreams and in every waking moment, let’s figure out how to get more twitter friends, more YouTube subscribers, more clicks to the blog, and more Facebook Friends! Actually, family, could you please go away and stop bothering me, so that I can write another great article about how travel has bonded our family, cuz this one will bring us tons of traffic!”
And so, my mistake has been in losing the balance between bringing funding to our trip AND not being in it anymore; between living and being and enjoying my family and these tropical paradises that we now call home AND sharing these stories so much that I lost their magic smell; between being unplugged and breathing and simple and alive AND being plugged and obsessed and addicted to the potential of what the online world could bring my family.
Maybe you’ve also felt that technology has robbed you of life? Maybe you also sometimes wonder if the awesome advantages are worth the painful costs? I would love to hear how you create the balance. Any and all tips and reflections are so appreciated.
I appreciate BootsNAll inviting travel bloggers like me to be inspired and think. And now, with that, I’m going to get offline and find my children, and go be with them.
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